There are few things men can do to instantly make girls swoon (save jumping into a telephone booth and putting on a red cape), but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try. While not all men were born equal, and some men are just naturally more charismatic than others, there’s absolutely no reason to pout because this guide will have you turning from pauper to prince charming in a matter of seconds.
#1: Wear Cologne
Did you know that your sense of smell is the most sensitive of the senses? Even after a year, people can recall scents with 65% accuracy, as compared to to visual recall, which is only 45%. Give your date a scented surprise by spritzing on a unique cologne before showing up—she’ll smell you before she sees you, which primes her for a visually appealing sight.
Choose a scent that suits your character—that means putting in the effort to actually select the type of cologne that not only smells good, but also smells like you. Don’t just cherry-pick a random bottle, pick a scent that’s unforgettable.
#2: Show Generosity
Little acts of generosity can go along way. We don’t mean always picking up the bill after an expensive date, or offering to bring her friends out for movies on your tab. Small acts of selflessness, like offering to send your date and her friends home after a gathering can show that you’re willing to go out of your way to ensure their safety.
Also, if you can’t pick up the tab after dinner, don’t feel bad. Generosity can be shown in many ways, including picking up a bottle of water from the nearby convenience store during a hot day. It doesn’t always have to be big, extravagant gifts. Small acts of kindness and generosity can leave a deep impression too.
#3: Listen Attentively
If there’s one thing we girls cannot stand, it is the guy that blabbers on and on during a date and doesn’t ever stop to listen. There’s so little emphasis being placed on being the sensitive dude who lends a listening ear that we feel it’s time to shed a little spotlight on listening attentively.
Most girls like being the centre of attention. To instantly make your date feel like the most special person, make the effort to really listen to what she’s talking about (even if it’s about that dress she saw in the shop window, or her bitchy ex-bestfriend). But don’t just stop at listening. Show her that you’re paying attention by offering advice or words of encouragement. That way you’ll really win her heart.
We’ve heard about No Shave November and we’ve witnessed the obsession around men with a well grown beard. But honestly speaking? Asians just don’t have that kind of genes required to grow a fluffy scruffy beard.
Granted, there are some Asians who’ve managed to grow out what most people would consider a healthy bush of beard, there are few who can pull it off. Furthermore, why would you want to cover that flawless boyish looking face with a whole chin worth of scruff?
Accept it Asian men, you were born with boyish looks and underdeveloped chin hair follicles, so give up the mo-dream and get rid of that scrawny try-hard goatie. Embrace the clean shaven look and watch as women fall head over heels for you.
#5: Get A Good Haircut
Ask the girls and they’ll tell you—a haircut can make a pivotal difference in your life. It’s the difference between street hobo and wall-street genius. One misstep at the hairdressers and you’ll regret it for months to come.
Just look at Miley’s hair evolution and you’ll know that a head of hair can mean the difference between sweet town country singer and rebellious rock star. Your hairstyle can speak a thousand words so make sure you choose one wisely (and please, for the love of God, don’t visit the $10 barbers).
Gentlemen salons that specialize in classic cuts (like the pompadour) are rising in popularity and they’re fronted by some of the best hairstylists. Pay a visit today and watch how your spanking new $40 haircut can make a significant difference in the way girls look at you.
#6: Know Where To Put Your Hands
You’ve definitely heard of the hover hand and how awkward it can be when a guy doesn’t know where he’s allowed to place his hands on a date. This can mean the difference between scoring a second night out with the girl of your dreams and never seeing her again.
As a general rule, it’s always safest to ask before you touch. She might think you’re a dork, but at least you won’t scare her away and she’ll know you respect her enough to ask before touching.
Going out with a guy that doesn’t know how to behave appropriately can be the greatest nightmare for any girl. Speaking loudly in restaurants and not turning off their phones in cinemas can be the greatest repellant to your date.
Learning how to behave in a manner that’s respectful to your date and others around you reveals that you’re a mature and civilised person and make you seem instantly more attractive. Don’t spit, don’t burp and always hold the doors—prove that chivalry isn’t just a fairytale.
#8: Roll Up Your Sleeves
It’s normal for guys to don a long sleeved dress shirt on the first date, after all, it’s all about leaving a great first impression right? But the thing is, while dress shirts make you look smart, they also make you look a little too serious and formal.
Roll up your sleeves so you look dressed up but casual at the same time. It makes it easier for your date to open up to you and helps you pull off that smart-casual look that’s effortlessly charming.
#9: Put Away Your Jewelry
Most men don’t suit fancy jewelry, so put away your leather cuffs and braided necklaces unless you’re a surfer down by the beach. A nice watch and a simple ring is usual more than substantial in trying to send subtle messages of affluence, but make sure you don’t overdo it by piling on jewelry.
Earrings are generally a no-go and so are necklaces and bracelets. Simplicity is the key when it comes to accessories on men, so pick up a simple belt, a nice pair of shoes, a matching watch and you’re good to go.
#10: Maintain Good Posture
The difference between a man exuding confidence and a man who appears reserved and introverted can lie in his posture. A good posture generally helps make one appear confident even in a situation where he isn’t. Furthermore, standing and sitting straight can help make you seem taller than you really are, giving your date a sense of security and making you look instantly more attractive.
You might think that slouching can hide your paunch and crouching over your knees while sitting will conceal the man boobs, but nothing is worse than showing your date how insecure you are with bad posture.
There’s no magic in the world, but there are little things you can do to make yourself seem more attractive, instantly. The best thing is that they’re so simple and effortless that sometimes becoming more appealing to the opposite sex involves merely changing your mindset and your posture.
So there you go guys, 10 tips to instantaneously transform from zero to hero. Make sure you follow each and every one of them and watch the girls fall to your feet.
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