I will never forget my first attempt at baking for D. We had only been dating for about a month, and in a bid to show that I was a sweet, doting girlfriend, I decided to bake him his favourite banana crumble – with the green bananas I had bought at the last minute because clearly, common sense is not my forte. I still can’t decide which was worse – actually believing that bananas would ripen in the oven or watching him finish the entire tasteless, mushy crumble just to make me feel better. One year later, I’ve come to realize that there are worse things a girl can do in a relationship, besides torturing her boyfriend’s taste buds.
#1. Expecting a fairy-tale romance
Admit it. At some point in time, your greatest wish was to marry a prince and live happily ever after. Maybe the reality of that dream looking a lot like life as a Saudi prince’s 6th wife jolted you from your fantasies. Maybe it didn’t. Either way, there’s no denying that we girls have so bought into the idea of a fairy-tale romance that we’re disappointed with anything less. We expect compliments and grand romantic gestures. The reality? Getting him to compliment you is like getting blood from stone, and his idea of romantic is yet another bouquet of roses. But so what? We can either invest all our time into chasing that perfect relationship, or we can accept that no relationship is perfect, and appreciate our guy for who he is.
#2. Expecting your guy to read your mind
“Don’t tell me what you’re thinking. I’m a mind reader!” said no guy ever. Your guy may know all your little quirks, but don’t fall into the trap of thinking that if he loves you, he would be able to tell what’s on your mind. If you’re still not convinced, consider this: If Prince Charming could read minds, the story of Cinderella would have ended a few chapters early.
#3. Honesty is good. Too much honesty… not so good.
Open, honest communication is essential for any relationship. But sometimes a little subtlety can go a long way, especially if it involves touchy subjects like your guy’s performance in the sack. Bruised egos aside, delving into a conversation about certain touchy subjects is guaranteed to throw up tricky questions you might not want to answer. It’s not always necessary to tell your guy everything, just for the sake of doing so. Just make sure your conscience is clear.
These things aren’t new; you may even have read them before. But believe it or not, there’s a reason why they keep appearing on lists like this. If I had only listened to some of these love advice before, I would have saved myself a lot of heartache – so remember to keep them in mind so that you don’t need to make the same mistakes that I did!
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